The Conditioned Self Personality Profile
Have you ever wondered if you had a blind-spot? A psychological blind-spot is a flaw, a weakness, or a personal trait or behavior causing you problems, yet you can’t see it. Everyone has one, however, only the strongest are willing to examine it. What negative trait does everyone see about you, but no one will tell you?
Right now, I want to dare, to dare you, to look at the part of you that you cannot see, but others can. Your Conditioned Self (CS) is what others can see in you that you cannot: your Blindside. Our conditioning from parents, family and school has shaped us all, every one of us, into something others see at times as fake, but many times, we hang on to that unreal part of us as a safety net afraid we will sink if we let go. And then over the years, this covering hides our real, true self.
In my weekend retreats, attendees share that as their CS first began to emerge, the discomfort was palatable and that their instinct was to give up working on that part of themselves. Makes sense as you have been comforting yourself by hiding that part from yourself for most of your life. Especially when we are about to fall into dire straits, or when we are in a crisis or we face a challenge, do we grip our conditioning with all our might. It is uncomfortable but as one leader I coached says-it is discomfort that gives us the opportunity for growth.
Hiding your weaknesses, uncertainties and limitations as well as managing other’s favorable impressions of us costs us a lot of energy and a waste of our precious time.
Unveiling your blind-spot is the only way to bring total honesty to our relationships, allowing us to be vulnerable at work, as well as in our most intimate and meaningful relationships. And then, what could benefit a company’s bottom line more than good relationship with their customers?
Sometimes, we must get things out on the table before we can take them off the table.
This is “that” assessment; the results of taking it will offer you a peek at what is holding you back from being your best self. Spoiler Alert: Don’t go any further if you had rather not know the whole truth about yourself.
Directions: Read each statement and apply the accompanying scale to each statement. Work rapidly, your first reaction is most accurate.
1 = never applies to me
2 = seldom applies to me
3 = sometimes applies to me
4 = often applies to me
5 = perfectly applies to me